Primrose — A poem of patient love
Introduction
Our traveler has chosen the path he will take. That does not mean he will reach his destination right away. His heart still longs for the adored traveler, but he must be patient if he is to savor the primrose in the garden.
Primrose
With patient love, I wait for you
for patient love I have known.
The love I have is not my own,
but patient love I’ve been shown.
Like a folded rose as nighttime perish,
razor thorns protect your primrose flower.
Only gentle, careful hands may cherish
beauty blooming in the morning hour.
When the darkest nighttime’s of this life befall,
I shall protect from those who will devour.
Until the Light arrives or home He calls,
to you alone, I give my summer shower.
My moans are prayers unto the Gardener, like coos of mourning doves.
I wait to enter your garden ‘til the Gardener’s time is right.
Your truest beauty only seen by presence of the Light.
I therefore see you as He does and hold your heart with love.
Loving someone fully
What does it mean to fully love someone? You must do your best to attune to the whole person, not only part of them. This means understanding them emotionally, mentally, spiritually, intellectually, and even physically. When you understand how someone is feeling in all these areas you can care for them better.
In our world of hopeless romantics, we restrict love to only physical and emotional connection. We further reduce this connection to romantic or sexual touch and positive emotions. The real world is far messier. Thoughts, events, and feelings from people’s past and present mean we are swinging. Loving someone fully is recognizing that each of our parts affects the others. We are not spiritual one moment and emotional the next, but we are all of ourselves all the time.
You have needs
It can feel frustrating to have a partner who is asking you to wait in some way. Perhaps you want to deepen your connection physically or emotionally, but they are not ready. Remember that frustration is a type of anger. So rather than become angry, examine your own motives and decide if your anger is righteous. Often, our frustration is rooted in our needs not being met. It is not your partner’s fault your needs are unmet, nor is it their responsibility to make sure your needs are met. We must learn to meet our own needs and gather people around who can support us when we need it.
As Christian we must rely on God to meet our needs. He is the only one who will never fail us.
Opportunities not threats
We are freed to love others selflessly when we accept our needs and our responsibility to meet them. We can only love others fully after we learn to love ourselves. Then we can recognize that something like our partner rejecting our sexual advances is not hatred or disgust. Rather, they are feeling stressed, tired, and overwhelmed, and need to vent and be hugged before they can relax to enjoy bonding with you. The barriers that stand between you and your partner connecting are no longer seen as threats, but as opportunities to love.
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